life with 3 boys - 1 big one and 2 small ones

Sunday, May 30, 2010


Aleksander, my youngest son is very adorable and special. When Aleksander was 7 months old I gave him some rice pablum. Little did I know that this would change our lives drastically so quickly. Within 5 minutes of eating 1tsp of this pablum he started vomitting. I didn't think to much about it, but then he vomitted again. I then noticed a hive by his eye so I gave him some bendryl. Within 2 minutes his eyes were swollen shut his lips were triple in size and his whole body was red. He was screaming and gasping!

I immediatly rushed him to the hospital were the quickly gave him an epinephrine shot and oral steroid. We then spent the next 6 hours in the hospital were they poked and proded ALeksander to keep checking on his vitals. They discharged us with a prescription for an epipen and told us to us it if necessary.

I kept my emotions intact pretty well. I started crying at the hospital when I knew his was ok. But when I got home it hit me, we had no idea what he was allergic to and why so severe?  What is it? How are we going to find out? How are we going to manage? He is so little, what are we going to do?

We went to see our family doc and he immediatly sent us to a pediatric allergist. 2 days later Aleksander was getting his skin pricked to determine what he was allergic too. The test showed that he was allergic to diary (which was in the pablum), nuts, eggs, and sunflower. We were also sent for blood tests. The blood test confirmed the allergies plus soy and wheat.

What happened to just a nut allergy? No, that would be to simple.  Instead he is allergic to everything. Diary and soy is in everything. Plus I am nursing so that means I could not have anything that he is allergic to. The first month was tough. It wasn't tough because of what he was allergic to, it was tough to educate people. It is really hard for them to understand a diary allergy. So many people respond with "Oh does he get a tummy ache from milk" my response is "No he dies from milk!"

This all happened nine months ago. Is it easier now?-yes and no. We have recently been to a different specialist and Aleksander can now have soy. He is drinking soy milk and loves it. I have cut back to nursing only once a day, which is why I have named this post bittersweet. Bittersweet because I am so happy that he can have soy, but kind of sad that he doesn't have to solely rely on me. We are now dealing with asthma with Aleksander and have been to the emergency room twice with him struggling to breath.

I still struggle with going places (home is our safety zone). This month was Allergy Awareness week and I would like to quote a mom that wrote this in resonse to this question posed- if you could say one thing to people about allergies what would it be?

She wrote "Imagine an open bottle of poison sitting on a lunch table. Ingesting one drop of this poison can cause death within minutes. You see a group of children come in and sit down at this table. Your child is with them. As a parent, what would you do? Would you remove the bottle of poison or would you allow it to stay on the table and just teach your child about what’s in the bottle and tell him or her to stay away? What if the bottle spills and it goes all over the table? Do you wipe it up and allow him or her to continue with the meal? Do you worry that the drop you missed is the one that happens to get onto your child’s sandwich? I know that most of the parents out there would remove the bottle from the table before the children eat. Many families of life threatening food allergies are faced with this situation every single day. It may be milk (butter,icecream, cheese, yogart)or sesame or eggs but it’s still POISON to them. That’s why you see many of us wiping down chairs and tables, bringing in our own food, sitting at a ‘poison free’ table, trying to make celebrations without food, and so on. Parents will do whatever it takes to keep their children safe. Yes, there are children out there with mild food allergies so maybe the poison is more like a thumbtack but many do indeed have ‘life threatening’ allergies and can die!

I am posing this question to you? What would you do? If there actually was an open bottle of ammonia on the kitchen table would you remove the bottle from the table?  Let me know!

Even though it has been a rough go at it for Aleksander, he is on the most part a healthy 16 month old. He is very adorable and goofy. He loves playing and is always in a great mood. He loves his big brother and copies everything he does. We are always prepared with his epipens and inhalers if needed and are always trying to minimize risks.  We are now a very healthy eating family-now processed foods here!

Love You More

Monday, May 24, 2010

The Long Weekend

This weekend was the long weekend. My whole extended family came down to St. Paul-all 4 of my brothers, sister inlaws and nieces and nephews (actually one of my brother lives in St. Paul as well). Malcolm absolutely loves it when everybody comes to Baba's. He adores all his cousins and plays nonstop with them.

Friday night we had supper at Baba's and then visited. We had a little girl hop in our car and come over for a sleep over. I think it was past midnight before Ava and Malcolm finaly went to sleep. Saturday, it was off for lunch to my brother Shanes and then Malcolm and his cousin Josh went to the new Shrek movie. I must say that it was pretty funny, although I think I enjoyed eating the popcorn more. It had been 5 months since I had popcorn (we thought aleksander was allergic and I am nursing so couldn't have it). Saturday night it was back to Baba's for supper. All the kids decided that they wanted a campfire although if was freezing. That night Elle decided to jump in our car for a sleepover. On the way home, out of the blue Malcolm looks at Elle and says "I love you". Sunday was a lazy rainy day at Baba's again-lots of kids running around inside and attempting to play in the rain.
Today was a productive day at home. Pj and I planted some tree saplings, I pruned my crabapple tree and rose bush, and I worked my flower bed. After lunch we all went for a bike ride. On our way home we picked up Liam(nephew). Malcolm and Liam are now sleeping. I wonder if Liam will stay all night this time? Aleksander loved all the attention this weekend from his cousins, aunts and uncles. He is walking more and yes he is still climbing. Pj caught him trying to climb the piano!

I owe my husband an appology. The only flaw that really bugs me is the nasty tobacco habit. He is trying hard to quit, but hasn't quite gotten there yet. (I gave up diary, nuts, wheat, eggs how hard can quitting smoking be?) Other than that he is the sweetest guy there is, especially when I am busy doing things.

If you haven't noticed I have already changed my blog name. "i love you more" is a game that Malcolm and I play. It usually starts with "i love you to coop", his reply "i love you to Joshie's", and we go back and forth until Malcolm says "mama i love you more".

i love you more

Sunday, May 23, 2010

My Family

My first boy is my husband! I meet my husband ten years ago. We dated for 3 years and he proposed to me on Halloween, we were married 5 months later on April 5, 2003. My husband is an Occupational Therapist and works at the hospital. He is a great papa and a wonderful husband.

My two other boys are Malcolm and Aleksander. Malcolm just turned 4. He makes me laugh everyday. He loves playing pretend (or as he says tember) and we spent most days playing knights and kings, luckily I get to be the princess. He is starting to like pokemon which I really don't understand but of course we have to pretend to be pokemons and have battles. He is playing soccer and he is doing great and loving it (quite different from last year). Aleksander is 1 (15months) and is a joy. He definitly keeps me on my toes. He is just starting to walk but he is an expert climber. The other day I caught him on our kitchen table and then on our wood pile outside. He loves to make people laugh and is quite goofy. Aleksander has severe multiple food allergies (diary, nuts, eggs, chicken). It was quite challenging at first but we are adapting. The hardest part of his allergies if dealing and educating people on the how serious his allergies are (he is anaphalctic to diary and needs an epipen).

I take care of my family and my family takes care of me!

I Love you through and through boys!

Friday, May 21, 2010

About Me

My name is Jana Dechaine. I am 32 years old soon to be 33. I am a full time mom and I am so happy that we are able to do that (even though some days i do count down the hours until my husband gets home). I am married to a wonderful husband whom I love for all of his flaws and in spite all of his flaws. I have two beautiful boys named Malcolm and Aleksander.

Before having children I was a special education and taught special ed kindergarten for six years. My experience teaching was wonderful and I was able to work with so many talented and knowledgable staff, the kids were great. And yes I am secretly assessing your kids (I just can't help it). One day I would like to go back to school and work on my masters with a focus on autism.

My sister(inlaw) inspired me to start this blog. I thought this would be a great oppurtunity to record some memories for my kids, plus I do not scrapbook and I have about 5 months of photos to put in books. My goal is to post something once a week-lets see if that happens.

"I Love You Through and Through" by Bernadette Rosetti-Shustak, a favourite book of my boys is the inspiration of my blog title:
"I love you through and through.I love our inside and outside. I love your happy side, your sad side.your silly side, your mad side. I love your fingers and toes,your ears and nose. I love your hair and eyes, your giggles and cries. I love you running and walking, silent and talking. I love your through and through....yesterday, today, and tomorrow, too."

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Learning How To Blog

Right now I am trying to learn how to blog with a crying baby trying to climb me. It is not working very well. I guess I should be doing this when Aleksander is sleeping!